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Comment on Desperate Lonely Girl by Bam Sun

Bam Sun — Fri, 05 Oct 2007 00:59:24 +0000

Great post. I often wonder when I’m dealing with a woman, is it me or is it my availability. I so often find that women in their mid 20s and beyond are on the hunt. I mean even the most f-cked up ones.
No disrespect to real women, but I know h-es who are in their 40s, still h-ing it up. And they really think that a guy like me is going to settle them down.
The golden rule will always remain. “You can’t change a h-e to a housewife.” No matter how much they try and clean themselves up.
People, especially women need to learn to love themselves before they can truly learn to learn someone else.

Comment on When Does The Game End… by Bam Sun

Bam Sun — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 12:00:22 +0000

Thank you cran877. It feels good to know that I’m not the only one who understands .

Comment on When Does The Game End… by cran877

cran877 — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 22:43:33 +0000

As I finish reading your article I can only say this… Well done. I recently turned 32. I have been dealing with exactly what you spoke about for many years as well. If people would just lay their intentions on the line there are no “hidden punches” which eliminates the feeling of game playing.

Comment on Girls Who Just Can’t Help Themselves by Bam Sun

Bam Sun — Thu, 30 Aug 2007 21:32:59 +0000

I really like this posting. And I hope that it makes some people, males and females, look at themselves.
This is a huge issue. I don’t care about Kate or Amy. But this is real problem for so many of us. And a good 70 to 80 percent of the women I’ve dealt with are like this. They don’t want to deal with any of the deep rooted issues that make them who they are. For me it’s painful to watch. But what can you do?
I’ve wasted a lot of my time trying to be therapist to someone who refused to believe they had any issues. And it gets old after a while.
In the end guys like me have to deal with the damamge that real bad boys cause real good girls (or they cause themselves). NO GOOD.

Comment on CO WORKER CRUSH by Bam Sun

Bam Sun — Thu, 30 Aug 2007 19:28:09 +0000

Hey troubledzen, thanks for your response. I do agree with you. I probably did freak her out when I tried to cut through the game. But as sad as it is so many people enjoy the games that life’s situations can give way to.
And as far as I can see it goes both ways. A lot of my guys are what women would consider dogs. I’ve played as well. But I’d hoped that age would be the factor that pulled some people out of the game. But hell the more I think about it, I know many 50-year-old game players.
So. guess some people never change. Kinda sad.
Thanks again…..Bam Sun

Comment on Girls Who Just Can’t Help Themselves by Candy314

Candy314 — Thu, 30 Aug 2007 13:03:17 +0000

I was engaged to the “jerk” and finally called it off…now I am engaged to the good guy!

As for my friend, she still hasn’t learned her lesson and will continue to be with the jerk. One day, I hope she will wake up and see that its not the drama that makes the relationship a “relationship”.

Comment on Girls Who Just Can’t Help Themselves by taveren99

taveren99 — Thu, 30 Aug 2007 05:53:00 +0000

You know what though? I see the jerk as a filter for the better guy. How does this woman react to the jerk? Does she go back and get another jerk, or is it a one time thing she learns from? The better girl will learn from that experience and use it to understand the good catch if a “great guy” is available. I tend to like older women because of their experience with this scenario.

Comment on Girls Who Just Can’t Help Themselves by Candy314

Candy314 — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 18:42:32 +0000

Thanks for the comment. I know I have done it before…I think all women tend to do it. (At least at some point in life) I think I am a woman with high self-esteem and of high self-worth. I still see friends that pass the great guy by to go out with the schmuck that treats them like crap. Who knows…maybe its just the life, love experiences that we must go through…
-Candy314

Comment on Girls Who Just Can’t Help Themselves by taveren99

taveren99 — Tue, 28 Aug 2007 17:28:17 +0000

As a male who’s seen his share of situations like this (I myself have been passed over for an asshole a couple of times lol), my thought is these women just simply RESPOND to these personality types. This idea is slightly different than responding to a jerk BECAUSE of issues of self worth–in other words they may not actually LIKE these guys or what they stand for (and they know they don’t), but they forego reason because of a simple biological response. That’s about the most sense i’m gonna make (lol), so I’ll stop there.

Comment on CO WORKER CRUSH by troubledzen

troubledzen — Mon, 27 Aug 2007 04:44:36 +0000

Hey Bam Sun, I understand your dilemma perfectly. Most people will tell you the problem was dating people at work to begin with. They are probably right too, but when you spend so much time in a single place or your profession involves long hours of work, I would say it is invitable if some sparks start flying by.

Second, some girls like to play the game. The ones who are able to play it, probably do. It is a great sport them and it keeps them on their toes, it gives them a reason to break the drearyness of work sometimes and it can be a little exiting too, because it seems slightly forbbiden in some cases.

The girls who play the game do not really get along with the other type. I had to learn this ‘courting’ someone in my workplace for roughly 4 months. Yes, 4. She was in a relationship when i met her, so the process turned out to be more complicated. The secret here was just patience, most men play the game naturally, there are not many secrets to it besides, show interest gently and timely, but consicely.

Now you seem stuck in situation that could have not turned out worse. It is childish, but the fact they were ‘relaying’ messages to you through a friend means she did not feel confortable enough to tell you these issues personally. When you broke the communication system and e-mailed her directly she freaked out.

what I would do is just probably avoid all contact with the girl for a good while, a month or so… depending on how she reacts. After that if there’s any way to simply communicate to her you are both stuck in that place together and the most imoportant is that you feel confortable working in the same place. Thta might ease things.

I’m stuck in a similar situation and I’m afraid someday the table turns to the ugly side. It’s a slippery slope.