This hunky new guy started a few months ago. Ok, I am a professional, so let me back up a little bit. This extremely nice young man started a few months ago. Who am I kidding? He was hot! Not only hot but extremely nice. He moved here from out of state and we were fortunate enough to have him grace the grounds of our company.
Now, let’s back up in time a little. A couple of years ago, a naïve young woman started working at our company. A very sweet and cute young lady, but she was very naïve to the politics of the real world. She was in a horrible relationship and finally got the nerve to cut the guy off. She shared her personal business with everyone, yes EVERYONE. To the point that she became the butt of many jokes.
Fast forward to present date. The hunky guy sees me in the cafeteria and starts talking about how hard it is to find a good girl. That he is having the time of his life finding someone who completes him – I kid you not, he used a line from Jerry Maguire – in this new city that he calls home. He told me that he had a live-in girlfriend for a while back home and that their break-up was bad, but it had been over a year. So I asked him what his type was and told him that I would be on the lookout.
Back it up a couple of months. I am in the cafeteria with the naïve young woman and the hunky guy walks in. She tried her best to flirt with him…but he didn’t seem to reciprocate. He visits our offices regularly and she tries the same thing over and over again and he seems to brush her off to the point of being mean.
Fast forward to present date. So I am in the cafeteria with the naïve young woman and hunky guy appears. I told him that I think I found someone for him. He kind of shied away from me. I said it again and then he started asking probing questions about the new found girl. I told him and he said that he would talk to me later. So I grab my lunch and start heading away when the naïve young woman pulls me to the side. She says that she has a confession that she and the hunky guy have been dating well over 4 months. That they pretend as though they are not so that no one in the company would find out. She then begs me not to find anyone for him and that I keep my mouth closed. So I do as I am told.
Fast forward to yesterday. I am in hunky guy’s department and he just returned from being out sick. I asked him how he was doing and if he needed anything. I told him that our office was going to send some food to him while he was out but no one had his number. He confessed that the naïve young woman did. I said that I did not know that. He then turned and said, “Well, I think she likes me… like a whole lot. But I’m not into her that way. She doesn’t fit my type. I just really like her as a friend.”
What would you do in this scenario? She obviously likes him…but he is saying otherwise. She says that she stays overnight at his house. But he makes her leave when his friends come over. She spends money on him. But he rarely pays for anything for her. I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. Should I tell her? Should I keep my mouth shut? What do you think? Let me know.