Comments on: CO WORKER CRUSH http://www.rosecry.com/2007/07/27/co-worker-crush/ Love and Relationships Tue, 06 Jan 2009 03:22:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Bam Sun http://www.rosecry.com/2007/07/27/co-worker-crush/comment-page-1/#comment-2719 Bam Sun Thu, 30 Aug 2007 19:28:09 +0000 http://www.rosecry.com/2007/07/27/co-worker-crush/#comment-2719 Hey troubledzen, thanks for your response. I do agree with you. I probably did freak her out when I tried to cut through the game. But as sad as it is so many people enjoy the games that life's situations can give way to. And as far as I can see it goes both ways. A lot of my guys are what women would consider dogs. I've played as well. But I'd hoped that age would be the factor that pulled some people out of the game. But hell the more I think about it, I know many 50-year-old game players. So. guess some people never change. Kinda sad. Thanks again.....Bam Sun Hey troubledzen, thanks for your response. I do agree with you. I probably did freak her out when I tried to cut through the game. But as sad as it is so many people enjoy the games that life’s situations can give way to.
And as far as I can see it goes both ways. A lot of my guys are what women would consider dogs. I’ve played as well. But I’d hoped that age would be the factor that pulled some people out of the game. But hell the more I think about it, I know many 50-year-old game players.
So. guess some people never change. Kinda sad.
Thanks again…..Bam Sun

]]> By: troubledzen http://www.rosecry.com/2007/07/27/co-worker-crush/comment-page-1/#comment-2684 troubledzen Mon, 27 Aug 2007 04:44:36 +0000 http://www.rosecry.com/2007/07/27/co-worker-crush/#comment-2684 Hey Bam Sun, I understand your dilemma perfectly. Most people will tell you the problem was dating people at work to begin with. They are probably right too, but when you spend so much time in a single place or your profession involves long hours of work, I would say it is invitable if some sparks start flying by. Second, some girls like to play the game. The ones who are able to play it, probably do. It is a great sport them and it keeps them on their toes, it gives them a reason to break the drearyness of work sometimes and it can be a little exiting too, because it seems slightly forbbiden in some cases. The girls who play the game do not really get along with the other type. I had to learn this 'courting' someone in my workplace for roughly 4 months. Yes, 4. She was in a relationship when i met her, so the process turned out to be more complicated. The secret here was just patience, most men play the game naturally, there are not many secrets to it besides, show interest gently and timely, but consicely. Now you seem stuck in situation that could have not turned out worse. It is childish, but the fact they were 'relaying' messages to you through a friend means she did not feel confortable enough to tell you these issues personally. When you broke the communication system and e-mailed her directly she freaked out. what I would do is just probably avoid all contact with the girl for a good while, a month or so... depending on how she reacts. After that if there's any way to simply communicate to her you are both stuck in that place together and the most imoportant is that you feel confortable working in the same place. Thta might ease things. I'm stuck in a similar situation and I'm afraid someday the table turns to the ugly side. It's a slippery slope. Hey Bam Sun, I understand your dilemma perfectly. Most people will tell you the problem was dating people at work to begin with. They are probably right too, but when you spend so much time in a single place or your profession involves long hours of work, I would say it is invitable if some sparks start flying by.

Second, some girls like to play the game. The ones who are able to play it, probably do. It is a great sport them and it keeps them on their toes, it gives them a reason to break the drearyness of work sometimes and it can be a little exiting too, because it seems slightly forbbiden in some cases.

The girls who play the game do not really get along with the other type. I had to learn this ‘courting’ someone in my workplace for roughly 4 months. Yes, 4. She was in a relationship when i met her, so the process turned out to be more complicated. The secret here was just patience, most men play the game naturally, there are not many secrets to it besides, show interest gently and timely, but consicely.

Now you seem stuck in situation that could have not turned out worse. It is childish, but the fact they were ‘relaying’ messages to you through a friend means she did not feel confortable enough to tell you these issues personally. When you broke the communication system and e-mailed her directly she freaked out.

what I would do is just probably avoid all contact with the girl for a good while, a month or so… depending on how she reacts. After that if there’s any way to simply communicate to her you are both stuck in that place together and the most imoportant is that you feel confortable working in the same place. Thta might ease things.

I’m stuck in a similar situation and I’m afraid someday the table turns to the ugly side. It’s a slippery slope.

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