Rosecry

Can You and Your Ex be or become good friends after the two of you break up?

I know there has been a lot written about staying in touch with your ex after a break up. Some of it’s positive and some negative. But is it really a bad thing to remain cool with someone that has broken your heart and spirit?

I say yes. My main ex and I have been broken up for over four years. And it was messy. It took me a while to recover, but I eventually did. She’s relocated oversees to do her fashion thing, but we still remain cool.

I think it’s good. We met one night some years ago and basically became a couple from that moment. It was cool being young and in love. I had never experienced anything like it. It was great. But the negative aspect was that we didn’t know each other at all. We didn’t have a chance to become friends first, so all the baggage we had from previous relationships came with us. It took a while for our issues to come to surface. But they did.

But now we are pretty close. That took some time.

I believe that you can learn a lot about the ex’s once you are no longer together. Becoming friends can be the link to all that information that they kept from you during your relationship.

But the main negative is that we still have that physical attraction to each other. No matter who we may be dating or whatever we still have that energy between us. And we have both acted on that energy on many occasions, right or wrong.

The point of all of this is to say that I do believe that you can be friends with the ex. But you have to put limitations on the new “relationship”. These are things that need to be discussed up front. Yes easier said then done. But it can be done. Just please be realistic about the potential effect on the new relationship if you keep an ex around, period.

What do you all think……..