You ever had a crush on someone that you work with? Of course you have. Who hasn’t? But how do you deal with this? As a man, I understand that the ego is a huge issue when dealing with anything pertaining to the opposite sex.
Just recently I had a crush on a beautiful co worker. She works in another department. And my female buddy in that department did a little probing for me. Come to find out she was single, really sweet, and she was asking about me as well. We would give each other the eye as we passed each other. It seemed like we were both searching for reasons to be in the copy room at the same time. All the little signs that someone is waiting for you to make that first move. So after 3 days of playing, I made that move. We could never find the time or space to be alone long enough to talk. So I emailed her.
I basically told her that I know that she knows nothing about me, and I don’t know her. But I figured that it was worth a shot to ask her out. So I did.
Now granted I understand all the issues that come into play when dealing with someone you work with. But I work in the film industry. A lot of times we work jobs for months, weeks, or even days at a time. So it’s a lot of work hard play hard cause you don’t get the chance to spend much time with the people you like. Many of them are not locals. This was the same situation.
Well….She shot me down. It was really nice how she did it. But I was shocked. Honestly. Still am, a little. In her email response she speaks about not being ready to get into a relationship and all this other crap. I just asked her out. Didn’t mention a thing about sex or a relationship. Just hanging out. I was like what the hell was that all about.
Then one of my other female co-workers told me that I was moving too fast. And I came off kinda creepy. I’m supposed to “play the game.” She told me.
W.T.F.? I’m 30 years old. I don’t play games.
I responded to her email just saying that it’s good and I respect the fact that she was honest. But I still think she’s attractive. And I won’t start acting awkward or anything. It’s good.
But now all of a sudden she can’t look me in the eye. She acts freaked out when I come around. All kinds of weird stuff. But I’m the creepy one.
Oh well. I guess that’s why I like older women. For the most part they don’t play games. But she’s my age so I thought things would be different. Wrong!!!!
I’ve not followed though on other opportunities to date other women that I’ve worked with. And they were upset with me. Hell, I’m confused.
But you win some and you loose some.
What can you do?
Ladies tell me something…………….

Black Men & White Women

Wow. Where do I begin? I am a black man. And yes I am attracted to white women. But I’m attracted to all kinds of women. All shapes, sizes, skin tones, etc. I have dated outside of my race on numerous occasions. But what I have discovered is that I personally can’t see myself being married to a white woman. Yes love is blind, blah, blah, blah. But with my mentality I feel like I would have to be with a person that lives in my world and understands the everyday struggles I deal with.

My ex was a white girl. And we had quite a few discussions about her not being able to do things when we were together that she can do when she was alone or with her white friends. But that’s a blog all on his own. What I’m trying to say is that we (whites and blacks) can be in the same city yet different worlds.

I sometimes wonder if brothers who do settle down with white women are somehow compromising themselves. What I mean by that is that black people in America are the most stripped race of people on the planet. We have had our history stripped. The great majority of us have no sense of history. We’ve been trained to hate each other, whether we realize it or not, etc, .etc. So on top of that to be with someone who has never had to learn anything about black culture doesn’t seem like it would make black culture better.

Now I’m not saying that it’s the duty of every married black man to put black culture on his back. Or is it?

I have so many thoughts on the subject I could write for days. But I want to know how you all feel about interracial relationships, especially those between black men and women outside of the black race.

Please respond…..

How can you charm a woman? Do they like a daily check-in phone call? Does she secretly wish you’d text her in the middle of the day for no reason but to make her smile? Do they prefer expensive dinners to home-cooked meals? Rock-hard abs? Flowers for no reason?
Identifying women’s turn-ons is complicated, because they all react differently. Some women you wish came with owner’s manuals so you knew exactly how they were wired. Luckily, I’ve done most of the legwork for you and am happy to pass this knowledge on to you.
Top 10 ways to charm a woman

1. Be aware. This means cracking open more than the sports section on the daily paper. Be up on current events and learn the difference between feelings, emotions and thoughts. Women are emotional beings and tend to think things through.
“They are attracted to men who are as smart or smarter”
They are attracted to men who are as smart or smarter than them, and your knowledge of worldly matters will demonstrate your intelligence.
2. Demonstrate humor. Women love a man who can make them laugh. Now don’t fret here if you’re not a stand-up comedian. We all have a certain type of humor. You can be dry, sarcastic, hilariously funny, quick-witted or dark. Being able to poke fun at yourself and just plain old being goofy is a turn-on for women. Keep in mind that all women are not attracted to the same type of humor, so if you don’t vibe, just walk away and try someone else.
3. Have passion. A guy who lives his life with gusto is incredibly appealing. When you speak to a woman about your life, your travels, your job, your interests, speak with passion. That passion about who you are will turn her on instantly. She will start to imagine what it will be like when you are involved with her and how passionate you will speak about her.
4. Be considerate. Pay attention to the little things and look for opportunities to make small gestures that show you care. A simple “How was your day?” and being able to listen to her when she wants to discuss something are huge. So many men forget about simple things like holding the door, paying for her valet or just thanking her for a great time last night. Women are all about a guy with manners — she is not attracted to the dope who acts like a caveman.
5. Be honest.
“Share who you are by telling her something personal”
Share who you are by telling her something personal. Maybe share one of your favorite childhood memories or some personal growth that you have been going through. Something that will show her that you are a trusting and honest person. It also shows that you are a confident but vulnerable man. Women love to see the vulnerable side of you. Note: Don’t talk about an ex in a bad way here. If you have to talk about an ex, do so in a positive manner and share what you learned and how you grew from the relationship.
6. Be flexibile. Be open to her plans but surprise her with your flexibility. Take charge and surprise her with a fun night out. Instead of being the typical guy who makes a reservation, think about how you can be the guy who listens to her and plans a great date that she did not expect. If you can pull this off, she will be open to all sorts of advances from you.
7. Be positive. If you are positive about life, it shows in your actions. I always tell men to be extra nice to waiters, bartenders and other service people. Be a courteous driver when she’s in the car. When you are in line at the movies, don’t complain. Look for the humor and try to have fun with people all around you. Be positive about everything, and she will find you to be very sexy and alluring. No one wants to be with a negative hothead.
8. Be balanced. Women love a successful, ambitious man. They love that you work hard, but if you constantly put work ahead of her she will become turned off. She will start to imagine what life with you will be like with her needs being ignored. If you are out meeting women to date, you need to balance your life between work and play. This will be a major turn-on for her.
9. Have ambition. Men who are ambitious about what they do are a turn-on to women. It doesn’t matter if you choose to be a rich stock trader or a painter, as long as you are passionate about who you are and what you do. If you don’t love what you do, find something that really turns you on. You can’t attract the woman you want with a negative ambition. Women love a man who is the best at what he does.
10. Be attentive. You are out with her for the very first time, and she tells you she loves a certain type of music. On the next date take her to a lounge that plays that type of music. It is all about paying attention to the details and working on your listening skills.

This list of 10 things will work in most cases. Keep in mind there is always the woman who you just can’t seem to please. If you happen to cross paths with this type of woman, ask yourself, “Why would I want to be with a woman who is so difficult?”
I tend to avoid the difficult, judgmental women. Knowing women’s turn-ons and putting them into practice will help you identify women who may be relationship material. You need to realize that you want to attract and turn on the women that are attracted to you on an equal level!

via [AttractandApproach.com]

Greedy girls pay attention: If you want a longer, deeper, more intense orgasm, you’ve (ahem) come to the right place. Considering the average female orgasm lasts between 15 and 30 seconds, it’s not surprising that many women feel a little, well, cheated when it comes to coming.

Now imagine an orgasm that lasts a full 30 minutes, with the odd random contraction happening up to a day afterward. This was the astonishing promise of two U.S. sexologists who pioneered what’s called the Extended Sexual Orgasm technique in the 80s. It was a pretty big claim — and it got a pretty big response at the time. But just like the G-spot, when people couldn’t figure out the whole orgasmic program in five minutes flat, it quickly and quietly disappeared into the “too complicated” basket… until now.

Sex therapists have recently resurrected Extended Sexual Orgasm (ESO) — and are seeing some spectacular results. What’s changed? The fact is, we’re far more sex-savvy now than ever before. So let’s get started.
Step One: On Your Own

* Think positively about sex. Most of us, according to the sexologists, resist pleasure rather than welcome pleasure– so you need to do some ‘cognitive restructuring’. In simple terms, this means thinking, “This is great — let’s go with it,” rather than “Oh God, my Mother would freak if she saw me now.”
* Do Kegel pelvic floor exercises. For the uninitiated — and where have you been? — these involve squeezing, holding, then releasing the same muscle you use to stop the flow of urine. The idea is to strengthen your pubococcygeus muscles, and standard sets involve clenching and releasing 25 to 30 times, three times a day.
* Pay attention when you masturbate. If you already know which strokes, speed, pressure and rhythms suit you, well done! Practice makes perfect for the rest of you.

Stage Two: With Your Partner

* You lie down while he sits or kneels cross-legged beside or in between your legs and applies some personal lubricant to the whole of your vagina and perineum (the part of your body between your vagina and anus). Next he should lightly brush and stroke your genitals but he’s not allowed to stimulate the clitoris and inside the vagina. He does this for at least five minutes.
* The stimulation now moves to the clitoris. He should slowly and steadily circle the clitoris with a finger, travelling around it once per second. At the same time, you tell him exactly what pressure and rhythm feels good.
* As he continues to stimulate your clitoris, you start doing your pelvic floor squeezes as you breathe deeply from your stomach. Prepare for your orgasm, because now it gets a bit complicated bit for him.
* As you feel you’re about to climax, he should watch and feel for regular two-second contractions in your genital area; this means you’re about to orgasm. Once these contractions start, he needs to stop stimulating the clitoris and immediately move to stroking the inner vaginal walls. Using his fingers, he can either push them in and out, or sweep them in circles in and out of the entrance. If he concentrates on the front vaginal wall (the bit underneath your tummy), stroking with his fore and middle finger is another option. Most crucial of all, whichever technique he chooses, the rhythm should be slow and steady.
* After you’ve had your orgasm, he’ll feel the vagina start to pull away - the point when most couples stop. But not this time! In ESO, your first orgasm is only the beginning, remember? Instead, he continues using his fingers inside the vagina, using a light touch initially, then upping the frequency and pressure once you feel ready for more. This should set off another series of contractions.
* The minute he feels a pause in the pulsating, he should move quickly back to stroking the clitoris as before. If he continues to steadily circle the clitoris, this should trigger even more contractions - at which point he moves back to stimulating inside the vagina again. He then continues switching back and forth from vaginal to clitoral stimulation until your contractions occur every one to five seconds.
* After doing this for 15 minutes, the contractions start to become continuous. When the vagina pushes out in a continual wave-like motion, you’re in the final phase. He now gets into a position where he can use both hands — and keep his balance — to stimulate the clitoris and the vagina simultaneously. The result: wave after wave of orgasms. …And to think you were going to give up!

Other Ways to Keep It Coming

* Find your “hot days.” It’s worth noting which days of the month you feel most aroused. Keep a chart. If Day One is the first day of your period, simply mark the days you feel sexy after that with a cross (record those days you can’t help but notice). After a few months, you may see a pattern emerging — or not; some of us don’t have one. If you do, it makes sense to try for extended orgasms during those periods.
* Drink less. Alcohol numbs and represses your bodily functions, lowering your chances of achieving extended sexual orgasms.
* Use lubricant. It allows you to be stimulated for longer without experiencing soreness.
* Move those hips. The more you move your pelvis, the longer and more intense the sexual charge. (Try belly dancing for ultimate flexibility!)
* Focus on the sensation. Men seem better at staying focused on orgasm, while women tend to “wander off” mentally. Search with your mind for the last, tiniest contraction to fully appreciate the experience.
* Switch stimulation. If you’ve just had a clitoral orgasm, switch to penetration or vaginal stimulation to continue the sensations or try for number two. If you’ve just climaxed through intercourse, switch to him giving you oral sex. Often, the first orgasm is sharper and quicker, the second could be longer.

via [iVillage]

Two weeks ago my aunt came to Chicago for a medical convention. She’s a nurse for the County of St. Louis specializing in HIV & STD treatment and prevention. We had dinner and as usual she had a few stories to tell. Blew my mind.

She told me the story of a 6-month-old baby who came in suffering from a major ear infection that they could not cure. Finally she asked the parents had they been tested for HIV or AIDS. The mother said no. And the father said yes, “About 20 years ago. But I was fine.” Longer story shorter he was not fine. He has been on file as HIV positive since 1986. He’s been positive for all these years and never told his girlfriends or even his wife. Twenty years.

How could someone be so cruel and careless? My aunt and I talked for a while and it finally hit me. This man at some point decided that his status would change if he chose to ignore the facts. He’s been lying to himself for all these years. Of course he has lied to countless others since, but it started with him convincing himself.

On my way home after dinner this particular story kept running through my mind. It took a while for everything to register but once it clicked it made sense to me that a great majority of us are like this. Not saying that you or I would lie about having a potentially deadly and contagious disease. But we all convince ourselves sometimes that things are different than what they really are.

The young lady at the club wearing an outfit two sizes too small… Before she left the house she had to convince herself that she looked cute. Or the punk, who’s not tough but thinks he’s a thug… He’s got to lie to himself to keep that façade convincing to those who don’t know any better.

I started thinking a lot about my own situations. One of my ex-girlfriends was cheating on me. I was in denial about it for a long time. But I caught her on the phone with another guy. Of course she lied and told me she wasn’t. Then another time I caught her male “friend” creeping over to her apartment at 11 something at night, after she was too tired to have me stay. We still talk to this day. And if I bring up either of these two situations, or any of the others, she has completely put them out of her mind. She knows that I know the truth. But she can’t accept the fact that she did something wrong in our relationship. It’s like instantly she cleansed herself of the matter by ignoring it. It never happened, in her mind.

And I’m sure that there are things deep inside my mind that I have buried. It’s easier to be something that you are not. It’s easier to be delusional. But “karma” is a mutha’. And at some point we all have to deal with the truth behind the lies that we so often live…..

Thousands of couples walked down the aisle on Saturday, 7-7-07, hoping all those 7s — the number long associated with luck — will keep them lucky in love. It’s one of the most popular wedding dates in modern history, according to overwhelmed wedding planners, florists, and photographers.

Relationship experts caution, however, that much more than luck is needed to stay together and beat the odds of a divorce, now estimated to end half of today’s marriages. Here, relationship experts consulted by WebMD offer their best marriage tips for how to stay lucky in love. And they go way beyond the usual tips to buy her flowers, cook his favorite meal, and remember to schedule date night.

Marriage Tip No. 1: Purge the “D’” word.

With the taste of wedding cake barely off their lips, divorce is the last thought — or word — on newlyweds’ minds. But as the honeymoon period wanes, and day-to-day difficulties crop up, the word can come up frequently during arguments for some couples, say relationship counselors.

“Just don’t go there,” suggests Steve Brody, Ph.D., a psychologist in Cambria, Calif., who counsels couples. “Some people pull that out much too early, and much too often in a relationship. It raises a whole level of anxiety [in the person hearing it].”

Divorce is also considered a dirty word by the more than 200 “marriage masters” interviewed for the book, “Project Everlasting.” Co-authors Mat Boggs and Jason Miller, bachelors and childhood buddies from Portland, Ore., traveled the country to interview the couples, married 40 or more years, and ask for their best marriage tips.

“Don’t use the D word” was one oft-repeated suggestion for keeping a happy marriage, Boggs says. These marriage masters told him, “You need all your energy to find the solution to a problem and work it out. If you are even giving any consideration to a divorce, you lessen your ability to solve the problem.”

Of course, Boggs says, the marriage masters acknowledged that some situations are deal breakers, such as addiction, adultery, or abuse. But when the problem is less severe, many of the marriage masters told him they create a “ledger of life.” They get out a piece of paper and write down everything they love about their spouse. Eventually, they shift gears and begin to focus on what is right, not what’s wrong.

Marriage Tip No. 2: Replace the seven deadly habits in a marriage with the seven caring habits.

Learning the seven bad habits and the seven good ones is the easy part, admit William Glasser, M.D., a Los Angeles psychiatrist, and his wife, Carleen

Glasser, M.A., who co-authored “Eight Lessons for a Happier Marriage,” include this idea in their book and counseling sessions. Putting them into practice takes effort, of course.

The seven deadly habits are criticizing, blaming, complaining, nagging, threatening, punishing, and bribing.

The seven caring habits include supporting, encouraging, listening, accepting, trusting, respecting, and negotiating your differences.

Marriage Tip No. 3: Take care of yourself.

This marriage tip is short and sweet: “Take care of yourself physically and spiritually,” Brody tells couples. That way, your stress will be down and your tolerance will be up. You’ll be less likely to get on each other’s nerves — and to squabble. You’re more likely to have a happy marriage.

Marriage Tip No. 4: Discuss outside friendships.

While some married couples consider activities such as workplace friendships with members of the opposite sex acceptable, some relationship experts disagree.

“I’m not big on cross-gender friendships for married people,” Brody says. “It’s playing with fire.” One exception, in his book: If a wife has a friendship with a gay man or a husband has a friendship with a gay woman, he’s fine with that, since the romance potential is nonexistent.

Otherwise, he says, the line is too easy and tempting to cross.

Marriage Tip No. 5: Stop trying to control your partner.

It’s another one of those easier-said-than done marriage tips, of course. But trying to control each other — using a technique psychologists call “external control” — is the main source of marital unhappiness, according to the Glassers. In a happy marriage, partners know they cannot control each other.

You have practiced this “external control” if you have ever told your partner they need to behave the way you want them to or that you know what is right.

Learning not to control a partner can be a long process, but the Glassers offer some tips on educating yourself. “Think first,” Carleen Glasser says. Ask yourself: “If I can only control my own behavior, what can I do to help the marriage?” Then think of what you can change to make the problem better, she suggests.

Marriage Tip No. 6: Honor and respect your partner.

“Be honoring all the time,” says Thomas Merrill. That means no “my old lady” stories, he says. And it also means a wife shouldn’t be flirting with male co-workers or other men.

Respect was also a marriage tip that came up often from the marriage masters, Boggs says. “The No. 1 principle that almost everyone talked about is respect,” he says. “You can have respect without love, but you cannot have love without respect.”

Respect, say those with a happy marriage, means not undermining your partner in front of the children. “And don’t go outside the marriage when you are having a problem,” Boggs says they advised. “Discuss it with your partner.”

Respect also means not criticizing your mate in front of others, Miller and Boggs were often told by the marriage masters. To make this marriage tip easier to practice, consider the input of one marriage master on the topic, Boggs says. “One man told me, ‘Let’s say someone is walking by when you are criticizing your mate. That is the only opinion they have of you.’”

Marriage Tip No. 7: If you’re the wife, lower your expectations. If you’re the husband, step up to the plate.

When Steve Brody and his wife, Cathy Brody, MFT, a marriage and family counselor, toured the country to promote their book, “Renew Your Marriage at Midlife,” they asked audiences what they wanted from marriage.

“Women expected to be loved, cherished, listened to, cared for, and courted,” Steve Brody says. They had a long list of wants and expectations, he recalls. The men joked that their expectations were more basic: Their typical answers, Brody says: “Bring food and show up naked.”

While the men were half joking, the gaps in expectations are a good lesson. To close the gap, Brody says, women need to lower their expectations — to not expect 24/7 romance, for instance, especially if their mate has just worked an unbelievably long week.

Men need to do some of the things the woman wants, such as prioritize their relationship and listen more, he says. In a nutshell, Brody says, “Men need to do the same things at home that they do at work.” He tells the husbands he counsels to think of it this way: “Your wife is the million-dollar client. If she walks out the door, the business is closed.”

[via WebMD]

Getting married is a beautiful event. A momentous occasion in one’s life. But being a serial wedding guest can wreck havoc on your wallet.

It seems that ever since graduating from college, everyone and their sister, cousin, niece…you get the point…is getting married. The year after I graduated, I attended 6 weddings. They were all of close friends…and I was even the maid of honor in one of them! But after a short review … and a couple of calls to some girlfriends, I am starting to see how this is not only breaking into our time, but also into our wallets. Now don’t get me wrong, I am nowhere near jealous, nor am I upset that I haven’t walked down that aisle yet, but I am starting to worry about my salary and being able to AFFORD even attending a wedding…

Let’s see about how much I spent on these 6 weddings. The one in which I was the maid of honor, I spent at least $500 - which included the dress, shoes, make-up and hair. Now that I think of it, I left off the parties and the presents. For the other 5, I spent at least $300. That’s accounting for presents, outfits, flights, hotel accommodations, bachelorette parties, etc.

I did a little research on the web and found that the typical wedding guest spend between $60 and $90 on a wedding gift. This price can vary depending on the length of time one has known the bride and groom.

So far, we’ve touched to surface on expense…but gifts aren’t the only thing.

For women, we usually like to look nice. You know why…don’t act like you don’t…this is the first time in a long time that we have seen ex-boyfriends, old friends, old roommates, and the list goes on. So it is extremely important to look your best.

My BFF’s estimate on her cost is as follows: “By the time I count outfit, hair, present, hotel, transportation and spending money, I would easily spend $300 and that’s a modest estimate. But I definitely don’t resent spending it. I love going to and being in weddings. It’s a really special day for my friend.”

Spoken like a true friend.

Can You and Your Ex be or become good friends after the two of you break up?

I know there has been a lot written about staying in touch with your ex after a break up. Some of it’s positive and some negative. But is it really a bad thing to remain cool with someone that has broken your heart and spirit?

I say yes. My main ex and I have been broken up for over four years. And it was messy. It took me a while to recover, but I eventually did. She’s relocated oversees to do her fashion thing, but we still remain cool.

I think it’s good. We met one night some years ago and basically became a couple from that moment. It was cool being young and in love. I had never experienced anything like it. It was great. But the negative aspect was that we didn’t know each other at all. We didn’t have a chance to become friends first, so all the baggage we had from previous relationships came with us. It took a while for our issues to come to surface. But they did.

But now we are pretty close. That took some time.

I believe that you can learn a lot about the ex’s once you are no longer together. Becoming friends can be the link to all that information that they kept from you during your relationship.

But the main negative is that we still have that physical attraction to each other. No matter who we may be dating or whatever we still have that energy between us. And we have both acted on that energy on many occasions, right or wrong.

The point of all of this is to say that I do believe that you can be friends with the ex. But you have to put limitations on the new “relationship”. These are things that need to be discussed up front. Yes easier said then done. But it can be done. Just please be realistic about the potential effect on the new relationship if you keep an ex around, period.

What do you all think……..

Single is in! I’ll give you one good reason why you should remain single and if you don’t like that reason, I’ll give you four-teen more reasons why being single isn’t so bad.

1. Personal Belongings: Everything stays exactly where you put it and that’s where you’ll find it when you go back for it (unless your house is haunted).
2. Noise Level: Don’t feel like listening to loud music or a blaring television? Great news! You don’t have too!
3. The Bathroom: You’ll never have to fight over whether the toilet tissue is to be pulled “over or under”. You’re not on a schedule, there isn’t anyone getting in the shower before or after you. There’s no rush so, take a few extra minutes to brush your teeth (don’t forget your tongue). And WOW, you can even “use the bathroom” without closing the door (please, only try this trick at home).
4. Conversation: You can talk to yourself and answer (if you choose to) and no will ever ask who you’re talking to or question your sanity.
5. Closet Space: All of the closets belong to YOU (that’s a major plus ladies)!
6. Leftovers: That lasagna that you cooked last night and have been anxious to get home to all day will still be in the refrigerator when you get home.
7. Thermostat: You have complete and total control over the temperature in your home. Chances are, if you weren’t single you’d have to tolerate temperatures that aren’t found on a normal thermostat like, 1° Cooler than Hell or 3° below Frost Bite .
8. Undressing: Kick your shoes off wherever you want! Who’s going to complain? This rule even applies to undies.
9. Leaving/Returning Home: When you open your front door to walk in or walk out, you’re NEVER asked questions that are sometimes rather annoying such as, “Where have you been?” or “Where are you going?” Isn’t it obvious that you’re going out, when you open the door from the inside anyway?
10. Telephone Calls: You never have to stress your vocal cords by screaming, “Pick up the phone it’s for you!”
11. Uninvited/Unwanted Guests: You never have to entertain in-laws. Enough said?
12. Fighting Neighbors: You can sigh with relief when you hear the couple next door fighting and be thankful that you don’t have to go through that.
13. Decorating: You can make the decision to paint your walls red, white and blue with green clovers, yellow moons and orange oranges and never have to stop and ask, “What do you think?”
14. Bedtime: Jump in! The bed is ALL yours, either side. Sleep at the top, sleep at the bottom, you can even try sideways. You won’t have to worry about losing sleep due to someone’s snoring and that dried up drool on the pillowcase, it’s just yours!
15. Unbroken: Unbroken, a word found in the dictionary under the word single . Single means, unbroken. Unbroken means, not broken. And we all know how the saying goes, “If it’s not broken, don’t try to fix it.”

via [socyberty.com]