E. The Blog Guy
E’s Question of the day:
Does it bother you to think about how many sex partners your current partner has had?
Or do you think about it at all?
I know when you’re involved in a relationship. It can be difficult to think about your lover being with another person, much less talk about it. But with disease and so many unplanned pregnancies, I think it’s absolutely imperative that it be discussed.
But how do you go about approaching the subject? And will you be able to handle the answer once you get it?
My ex once told me, “Don’t ask me anything you don’t want to know the answer to.” So I asked. And honestly even though I’d had twice as many partners as she’d had I still felt kinda’ weird about it. It took a while for me to put it out of my mind. Every time she would run into an old friend when we’d be out together I’d want to know if he was one of the many.
How do you deal with your ex being so friendly to those they use to be sexually active with?
Please tell me what you think…..
I try not to think about it. I would be lying if I said I never asked. But it is important to remember to separate your new relationship from your significant other’s previous relationships. If you ask and find out something that you don’t want to hear…you will most likely dwell on it and that is not healthy.