10. She’s Independent

If she is “The 1” then babysitting her is an exception and not the rule Once in a while, like if she’s had a rough day at work, it’s great to be her shoulder to cry on, but if she can’t seem to function without you and is constantly after you, she will eventually make you feel like you’re suffocating, which is a surefire way to get you running out the nearest exit. On the other hand, if she has her very own personality and opinions, can stand on her own two feet, both financially and emotionally, and is able to enjoy time away from you - while still missing you, of course - then she has fulfilled one of the 10 requirements for being “The 1″.

9. She’s Intelligent

I hate to be the one to tell you this, but the bimbo routine gets real old, real fast. Instead of being the one in total control, you’ll find yourself trying to figure out what she’s really thinking behind those glazed eyes of hers - or if she’s actually thinking at all. An intelligent woman will constantly surprise you and keep you on your toes. She won’t let you get bored of her. Besides, it’s nice to have something to talk about between all that toe-curling sex. If this describes her, then she has fulfilled another one of the 10 requirements for being “The 1″.

8. She’s Sexual

While we’re on the topic, “The 1” has to be sexually compatible with you. For instance, if you’re into whips and leather and she’s more the “Frederick’s of Hollywood Lingerie” type, that’s a problem. The two of you have to be on the same page - or, at least, she has to be willing to wear leather and use a whip from time to time. Of course, this doesn’t imply that she has to know all the right moves straight away; it simply means that both of you have an undeniable attraction toward each other, and are able to communicate your desires verbally (or with physical cues). It is important that you please each other in the bedroom, or in the shower - whatever the case may be.  If this describes her, then she has fulfilled another one of the 10 requirements for being “The 1″.

7. She’s Gorgeous To You

I know, this one is kind of obvious, but important nonetheless. “The 1” will not only want to look good for you, but also for herself. She should always look her best and be well put together - matching lingerie is a definite plus. You have to be proud to have her on your arm and enjoy the sight of her in any light. And this doesn’t mean that she has to look like a supermodel. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so if you think her extra long nose or lazy eye are beautiful, that’s perfectly acceptable. If she is gorgeous to you, then she has fulfilled yet another one of the 10 requirements for being “The 1”

6. She Respects You

This is a very important. Your woman must respect you. This means that she listens to you, even if she doesn’t necessarily agree with what you’re saying. And, of course, she never tries to demean or belittle you in any way, shape or form. “The 1” won’t ever cause scenes in public or in front of your friends and family, and will always wait to discuss matters with you in private. If she respects you, chances are that she will behave in a tactful and diplomatic manner in most situations, which is definitely a good thing. It goes without saying that if she has this quality, she has come one step closer to being “The 1”

5. She Allows You To Be “A Guy”

Do not - I repeat - do not get involved with a woman who tries to get you to eat cottage cheese and fruit for breakfast and insists that you give up poker night with the guys. You will end up resenting her more than you can imagine. “The 1” lets you be a guy in all your glory, poker night and all. If she’s “The 1”, she’ll even bring you and your buddies a couple of beers and make you something to eat. She has to understand that men and women are different and should allow you to be yourself. Just like you wouldn’t deprive her of going shopping with her best girlfriend, she shouldn’t expect you to give up the guys for her. A very important quality that must be possessed if she stands any chance of being “The 1”.

4. She’s Doesn’t Nag

There is nothing worse than a nag! “The 1” knows this and chooses her battles wisely. She knows when to speak up and when to let it slide. She is definitely not “The 1” if she gives you hell for leaving a couple of dishes in the sink occasionally. However, if you live together and you stay out all night without calling her, and she lets you have it, then you’re setting yourself up for disaster. This is a situation that nobody would let slide - not even “The 1”.  We are about to get into the final 3, but even though this is #4, if she has this quality, she is even closer to being “The 1”

3. She Gets Along With Your Friends and Family

”The One” will not only help your mom in the kitchen, listen to your dad’s stories and hang out with your friends, but she will enjoy it. She’ll make a real effort to get to know and love the most important people in your life. And she won’t try to get you to ditch your best buds. She’ll actually empathize with your brother’s getting dumped and suggest that you guys take him out to cheer him up. Not only that, but your friends won’t roll their eyes and moan when you mention that she’ll be joining you guys when she gets off work (yes, women like this do exist).

2. She Loves You

If you have found a woman who loves you for who you really are and not who you pretend or try to be sometimes, you should definitely hang on to her. A woman who doesn’t try to change you is hard to find. Of course, all women have their slightly annoying habits that their mate has to contend with, but if she really loves you, she will be able to cope with these. Another way to know if she really loves you is by observing the way she looks at you and treats you on an everyday basis. If the sight of you doesn’t seem to faze her either way, and she doesn’t really seem to care about what you have to say, she’s either playing very hard to get, or sees you as just some guy. But if a surprise visit or phone call from you makes her light up, there’s no denying that she loves you.  Obviously she must have this to stand any chance of being “The 1”

1. She makes you want to be a better man

Stop making that face… any man who feels he has found “The One” will tell you that she makes him want to be a better man. She doesn’t have to say or do anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly feel bad about how you treated your sister or find yourself trying to get your finances in order, you might want to think about your motivation for doing so. If lighting up her face is one of the most important things on your daily to-do list, and you don’t do anything that you think will make life less pleasant for her, chances are she makes you want to be a better man, thereby bringing her even closer to being “The 1”

Very rare is the woman who has all of these 10 qualities. If you find one who does, then she is definitely a keeper. If you find one who has most, don’t expect to change her, people never change except if they want to. If she has a few of the qualities above, then just keep it moving.